Emotional Intelligence

Attachments, in the spiritual/emotional sense, are when you strongly want something to be a certain way (or not a certain way), and you have an emotional investment in it. They feel like a tension, tightness, clenching in your body and are accompanied by persistent and generally unpleasant emotions that arise whenever you think about the […]

What happens when your business partner or employee is also your friend…but they aren’t good for your business?
Sometimes you don’t realize right away. You want to give them a chance, so you let things slide that you wouldn’t if they were anyone else. Perhaps they used to do a good job but lately things never […]

There’s this idea that our purpose in life is this defined, concrete thing, and that if we find it our lives will “click” and if we don’t we’ll forever be wandering and lost and not really “living up to our potential”.
I’m beginning to think that maybe that’s all BS.
We all definitely have needs for self-awareness […]

Hope can be a wonderful thing, but for many of us it has been a coping skill, not a living skill.
Hope is a feeling that a desire will be fulfilled someday. Hope can be good if you are just coming out of despair. Hope can be that motivating factor where you realize you really can have a beautiful, […]

Whenever we are engaged in an activity that we don’t want to do, we are acting in opposition to ourselves.
Part of our energy is going towards doing the activity.
And part of our energy is going towards resisting doing the activity.
This energy shows up in procrastination, inner disharmony, suppression activities (watching TV, drinking, addiction), anger, and […]

This morning, I nervously contemplated this question: “If I asked my business what it really needs right now, what would it say?”
The answer came back:

a bookkeeper
a tax advisor
a full time programmer

Oy. Well you can guess why my business isn’t getting these. All my issues!
Letting people look at all my money dirty laundry is scary. Trusting […]

I’ve been growing and expanding my business and life in all kinds of ways in the past month, so I was puzzled this morning that I was not feeling happy. Instead I felt like I had a loooong to-do list and I felt tired and grumpy.
So I took a long walk, stared at some ducks, […]

What is Codependency?
Robert Subby defines codependency as “An emotional, psychological, and behavioral condition that develops as a result of an individual’s prolonged exposure to, and practice of, a set of oppressive rules.”
The term comes out of treating alcoholics and their loved ones, who developed codependent patterns to cope with the alcoholic’s behavior. Codependency is a […]