Ease vs Struggle

The biggest struggles I and many of my clients have had are around setting and navigating boundaries in business. The client that asks for extras–and you feel queasy inside as you say “Ok…I guess that wouldn’t be that big of a deal”. The person who wants to trade with you [...]

A marketing formula is a way of reaching your target market that consistently works and you can rely on to create a steady stream of new clients.
Your marketing formula works hand in hand with your clearly defined niche to create a flourishing business.
Your marketing formula is unique to you and your business.
The problem with a [...]

When you have made mistakes, or are in a desperate place, it’s easy to fall into the habit of criticizing yourself or beating yourself up.
There is often a voice that says something like, “I need to beat myself up to keep myself on track. If I don’t, I might become lazy or worse and then [...]

This is how I define God: a felt sense of the interconnectedness of everything to everything else, and the subtle harmony that runs through it all. And the “felt” part is what I want to talk about here.
Things are interconnected whether you feel it or not. And that field of interconnectivity is there whether you [...]

There’s this idea that our purpose in life is this defined, concrete thing, and that if we find it our lives will “click” and if we don’t we’ll forever be wandering and lost and not really “living up to our potential”.
I’m beginning to think that maybe that’s all BS.
We all definitely have needs for self-awareness [...]

Hope can be a wonderful thing, but for many of us it has been a coping skill, not a living skill.
Hope is a feeling that a desire will be fulfilled someday. Hope can be good if you are just coming out of despair. Hope can be that motivating factor where you realize you really can have a beautiful, [...]

I was browsing in the library today and a book on the Kabbalah jumped out at me. Now I thought Kabbalah was this arcane thing with strange symbols and a lot of numerology. So not! This book totally clicked something into place for me around why life is difficult.
So the whole idea of “we have [...]

Whenever we are engaged in an activity that we don’t want to do, we are acting in opposition to ourselves.
Part of our energy is going towards doing the activity.
And part of our energy is going towards resisting doing the activity.
This energy shows up in procrastination, inner disharmony, suppression activities (watching TV, drinking, addiction), anger, and [...]

Sometimes working so hard at a thing, you become used to struggle.
Abundance is flow, it’s the thing happening at the right time, better than you expected, glorious and full.
And when it happens, you have to let it in. You have to let it become your new reality. Let go of the pain of the struggle. [...]

Happiness is not a secret. It’s a goal.
The reason I am happy, as a person, is that I just can’t stand to be unhappy. It irks me, and whenever I’m not happy, I work continually until I figure out how to wrestle my life (or relax my life) back into that peaceful state of flow.
There [...]

We’re all addicts.
Tim’s book The Four Hour Work Week has an entire section devoted to “Elimination”: getting rid of distractions that keep you from being effective. The biggest offenders are “work fidgets” – things we do that we don’t really need to do but they fill time. Like checking email 20 times a day.
Recognizing myself [...]

Sometimes I get lost in focusing on money and business and lose sight of my playful side. I start feeling grumpy and sluggish and think “Why am I so obsessed with money?” But the truth is I’m not: money is this great game to me, as long as I’m connected to my sense of play with [...]