Self-Knowledge

The biggest struggles I and many of my clients have had are around setting and navigating boundaries in business. The client that asks for extras–and you feel queasy inside as you say “Ok…I guess that wouldn’t be that big of a deal”. The person who wants to trade with you [...]

Sometimes I find I just can’t go full speed with the socializing, online or otherwise.
Part of why I created my own business was so I could spend long stretches of time doing my own thing. Alone. No contact with people, not even email contact. Not even Twitter. Perhaps especially not Twitter.
I really prefer a few [...]

“Prosperity consciousness” is usually associated with material abundance. But there is a subtle poverty that is deeper than the scarcity people feel around money (although they are related). And no “abundance” strategy will heal it if it isn’t dealt with first.
We often live with daily emotional and spiritual scarcity. We don’t feel like enough.
We don’t feel [...]

All emotional suffering and stuckness is caused by closing down and contracting around pain. Pain happens, and change happens – this is the nature of life. However, suffering is an add-on that we create through our reaction to that pain and change.
Healing is the process of grieving and accepting this pain and change, and [...]

Completing a major project (or job, or other major part of your life) and letting yourself move on involves:

recognizing that you are “done”
giving yourself permission to be “done”
actually completing the thing

When and why is it hard to recognize and accept when you are done?

If you think you ought to not be done yet.
If you thought [...]

It always surprises me when I realize I’ve forgotten something rather basic and have to relearn it. Over and over and over again.
Feel your feelings.
All of them.
All of them, feel them, as much of the time as you can.
But, don’t identify with them.
Don’t loop around in thoughts that make them worse.
They are messages, they are [...]

This is a comment on Charlie’s post Do Epic Shit.
(Note: I’m not disagreeing with the post, I’m just adding another voice. Different people need different messages.)
I write periodically about the machine we call the education system and how it breaks many of us in one way or another such that we need to work hard [...]

Each year the coming of winter tends to hit me like a wall of bricks. Suddenly it’s dark so early. Suddenly it’s raining all the time. Suddenly I feel sluggish, unmotivated, depressed. My blogs go silent, my mind goes fuzzy, I just want to sleeeeep.
And you know what? That’s OK.
Winter is supposed to be slow.
Taoism [...]

I was musing with a friend and colleague recently about our different styles – we decided she was like water and I was like lava – a combination of fire and earth. Fire is transformative, explosive, quick-moving, but can burn out quickly without the right nourishment. Earth is grounded, practical, always there. Lava is a [...]