Comments on: Working With Inner Resistance 101 http://www.taoofprosperity.com/working-with-inner-resistance-101/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=working-with-inner-resistance-101 create a non-striving business Mon, 24 Oct 2011 16:30:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Tao of Prosperity · What Does Right-Relationship With Money Look Like? http://www.taoofprosperity.com/working-with-inner-resistance-101/#comment-1460 Tao of Prosperity · What Does Right-Relationship With Money Look Like? Sun, 25 Jul 2010 11:44:25 +0000 http://www.taoofprosperity.com/2008/working-with-inner-resistance-101/#comment-1460 [...] Relax the grasping. Grasping is an instinctual response to fear. Think of a baby, latching on to its mother. Take a deep breathe. Notice when you get in sticky situations with clients and money, or overspend. Somewhere in there are attachments, deep unmet needs for safety and security that you are unconsciously trying to meet through your use (or avoidance) of money.  Get mindful. Breathe into the places that are afraid and dialog with them. [...] [...] Relax the grasping. Grasping is an instinctual response to fear. Think of a baby, latching on to its mother. Take a deep breathe. Notice when you get in sticky situations with clients and money, or overspend. Somewhere in there are attachments, deep unmet needs for safety and security that you are unconsciously trying to meet through your use (or avoidance) of money.  Get mindful. Breathe into the places that are afraid and dialog with them. [...]

]]> By: Joely Black (@TheCharmQuark on Twitter) http://www.taoofprosperity.com/working-with-inner-resistance-101/#comment-324 Joely Black (@TheCharmQuark on Twitter) Sun, 28 Dec 2008 11:31:46 +0000 http://www.taoofprosperity.com/2008/working-with-inner-resistance-101/#comment-324 Hi Emma, I found this via James. It's just exactly what I needed this morning. I've been dealing with a major resistance problem, and I think this might be just the solution. J Hi Emma,

I found this via James. It’s just exactly what I needed this morning. I’ve been dealing with a major resistance problem, and I think this might be just the solution.

J

]]> By: Day 9: Making a promise to myself | Dancing Geek http://www.taoofprosperity.com/working-with-inner-resistance-101/#comment-320 Day 9: Making a promise to myself | Dancing Geek Tue, 23 Dec 2008 04:37:50 +0000 http://www.taoofprosperity.com/2008/working-with-inner-resistance-101/#comment-320 [...] found an interesting visualisation technique at a link in the comments for a great post about resistance at Emma’s Tao of Prosperity blog.  I decided I would give this a try because I’d had a [...] [...] found an interesting visualisation technique at a link in the comments for a great post about resistance at Emma’s Tao of Prosperity blog.  I decided I would give this a try because I’d had a [...]

]]> By: James | Dancing Geek http://www.taoofprosperity.com/working-with-inner-resistance-101/#comment-319 James | Dancing Geek Sun, 21 Dec 2008 15:06:46 +0000 http://www.taoofprosperity.com/2008/working-with-inner-resistance-101/#comment-319 @Emma - oooh, yes, it could well be. It makes sense as a reaction to stress in terms of the feeling of retreating into safety and insulation. Not sure if this is the same for me or not, but something I will keep in mind certainly. I really like the example visualisation that Christine linked to as well, so vivid! I'm wondering if I could try that with my wolf, but becoming the wolf would be very intense. Not sure I'm up for that yet. @Emma – oooh, yes, it could well be. It makes sense as a reaction to stress in terms of the feeling of retreating into safety and insulation. Not sure if this is the same for me or not, but something I will keep in mind certainly.

I really like the example visualisation that Christine linked to as well, so vivid! I’m wondering if I could try that with my wolf, but becoming the wolf would be very intense. Not sure I’m up for that yet.

]]> By: Emma http://www.taoofprosperity.com/working-with-inner-resistance-101/#comment-318 Emma Sun, 21 Dec 2008 12:27:14 +0000 http://www.taoofprosperity.com/2008/working-with-inner-resistance-101/#comment-318 @Christine, @Sonia Hi, and yeah, thanks for sharing resources. I think the more of this kind of stuff is out there the better. I want people to have options as to how they approach themselves. @James You know, what is occurring to me right now about the sleep thing is that maybe it's not something that will go away permanently - maybe it's a thing like depression, that will show up for me when there is something I'm not paying attention to - some kind of alarm system that I'm not paying attention to my needs. Especially needs around creativity and doing things I love, or time alone to recharge or process my feelings. Cause I've noticed that when I talk to that part of me - it's often in resistance mode about different things. At first I thought it was different levels of the issue, but now I'm wondering if it's just always going to come out if I'm not taking good enough care of myself. I know it developed when I was a teenager and I was going through severe emotional trauma - it was my bodies way of surviving, a stress response. I think it might just be something that indicates that I'm under too much emotional stress. Because I know there have been times in my life where I didn't have much trouble with it, and that has always puzzled me. How could it go away and then come back? But if it's a habitual stress response, that would make sense. It seems like it happens when I'm under both positive and negative stress. For instance, pushing my comfort zone in a good way can trigger it. Like, uh, tonight - I'm working on interviewing potential VAs and the idea of hiring a VA is stressful because it involves a lot of trust and change and "I hope they like me" - and here I am awake at 4:30 am. =) Emma @Christine, @Sonia Hi, and yeah, thanks for sharing resources. I think the more of this kind of stuff is out there the better. I want people to have options as to how they approach themselves.

@James

You know, what is occurring to me right now about the sleep thing is that maybe it’s not something that will go away permanently – maybe it’s a thing like depression, that will show up for me when there is something I’m not paying attention to – some kind of alarm system that I’m not paying attention to my needs. Especially needs around creativity and doing things I love, or time alone to recharge or process my feelings. Cause I’ve noticed that when I talk to that part of me – it’s often in resistance mode about different things. At first I thought it was different levels of the issue, but now I’m wondering if it’s just always going to come out if I’m not taking good enough care of myself.

I know it developed when I was a teenager and I was going through severe emotional trauma – it was my bodies way of surviving, a stress response. I think it might just be something that indicates that I’m under too much emotional stress. Because I know there have been times in my life where I didn’t have much trouble with it, and that has always puzzled me. How could it go away and then come back? But if it’s a habitual stress response, that would make sense.

It seems like it happens when I’m under both positive and negative stress. For instance, pushing my comfort zone in a good way can trigger it. Like, uh, tonight – I’m working on interviewing potential VAs and the idea of hiring a VA is stressful because it involves a lot of trust and change and “I hope they like me” – and here I am awake at 4:30 am. =)

Emma

]]> By: James | Dancing Geek http://www.taoofprosperity.com/working-with-inner-resistance-101/#comment-317 James | Dancing Geek Sun, 21 Dec 2008 11:44:33 +0000 http://www.taoofprosperity.com/2008/working-with-inner-resistance-101/#comment-317 "I don’t want to make myself do anything! I want my whole self to be on board with everything I do." Hear, hear! This would absolutely be my way of thinking. It's confusing as hell to some, including the bf, but the idea of doing anything that isn't 100% congruent just hurts! As for the sleep thing, it's really cool of you to share your little dialogue here. It feels like you're just a couple of steps ahead of me in this one and it's really helpful to see the way things could go. Good luck with the VA stuff, check @StacyBrice's tweet stream for useful links and stuff. “I don’t want to make myself do anything! I want my whole self to be on board with everything I do.”

Hear, hear! This would absolutely be my way of thinking. It’s confusing as hell to some, including the bf, but the idea of doing anything that isn’t 100% congruent just hurts!

As for the sleep thing, it’s really cool of you to share your little dialogue here. It feels like you’re just a couple of steps ahead of me in this one and it’s really helpful to see the way things could go.

Good luck with the VA stuff, check @StacyBrice’s tweet stream for useful links and stuff.

]]> By: Sonia Connolly http://www.taoofprosperity.com/working-with-inner-resistance-101/#comment-314 Sonia Connolly Sun, 21 Dec 2008 06:10:14 +0000 http://www.taoofprosperity.com/2008/working-with-inner-resistance-101/#comment-314 Hi, Emma, Thanks for sharing your process around resistance! I really resonate with this part: "I don’t want to make myself do anything! I want my whole self to be on board with everything I do." A major theme for me has been learning patience with myself, and waiting until there's consensus to take new steps. I hope it's okay to share an article I wrote a couple of months ago along very similar lines. It's exciting for me to know about other people approaching life this way! http://traumahealed.com/articles/gift-resistance.html Best wishes with your Virtual Assistant plan. Sonia Hi, Emma,

Thanks for sharing your process around resistance! I really resonate with this part: “I don’t want to make myself do anything! I want my whole self to be on board with everything I do.” A major theme for me has been learning patience with myself, and waiting until there’s consensus to take new steps.

I hope it’s okay to share an article I wrote a couple of months ago along very similar lines. It’s exciting for me to know about other people approaching life this way! http://traumahealed.com/articles/gift-resistance.html

Best wishes with your Virtual Assistant plan.
Sonia

]]> By: Christine http://www.taoofprosperity.com/working-with-inner-resistance-101/#comment-313 Christine Sat, 20 Dec 2008 22:16:10 +0000 http://www.taoofprosperity.com/2008/working-with-inner-resistance-101/#comment-313 Hi Emma Great article! Your honesty is inspiring. I have to say that I have a very similar conversation going on myself at the moment. Your process reminded me a lot of a meditation process that I have been using in the past few years. My teacher Lama Tsultrim Alione developed it, and has a book/website if you are interested. http://www.kapalatraining.com/process.htm Thanks again, Christine Hi Emma
Great article! Your honesty is inspiring. I have to say that I have a very similar conversation going on myself at the moment. Your process reminded me a lot of a meditation process that I have been using in the past few years. My teacher Lama Tsultrim Alione developed it, and has a book/website if you are interested. http://www.kapalatraining.com/process.htm

Thanks again,
Christine

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