Mentoring is not just about the transfer of knowledge. What happens when we enter into a relationship with a teacher, mentor, or even a group that has members more expanded in a certain area is that our energetic vibration expands and elevates to match that of the leader or the group.
We may learn specific skills and knowledge as well, but what happens energetically is much more profound. Our underlying sense of what is possible shifts and expands.
It’s important to expose yourself to people who think bigger than you do on a regular basis if you want to grow and expand and transform your business. It’s not something you can replicate by reading books (believe me, I’ve tried). Books will give you ideas, but it’s not the same as actually being in the energy field of someone who thinks on a different level than you do. The books will tell you what to do differently–the energy shift will enable you to actually do it.
I don’t have a formal mentor, but in my MasterMind group, we have a mentoring relationship with each other, and we fill in the gaps in each others mastery. I get to sit next to someone who has decades of experience within major corporations. That’s a different level of thinking than I’ve ever thought at. I’ve never had a “real job” even once. Nope, I have never worn pantyhose to work, thank God. But I’ve also never had the responsibility or worked at the scale of magnitude that these people have. So my energy and sense of what is possible expands by being in the group.
On the other hand–I’ve never had a real job! I like to think I bring a kind of fresh non-beaten-down energy to the group. I say things that would be completely out of place in a board room setting. I talk about the emotions and the spirituality and energy behind business. I have a freedom around certain things and a commitment to other things (like non-violence and consensus). I get to learn that showing up in that is a contribution to others, another neat aspect to the group.
I can feel the energy shifting and reconfiguring in my body when it expands to take in a new idea. When I think back over all the “stuck” times in my business, and how I shifted, I can pinpoint most of the shifts as coming as an easy letting go after I had met and talked to someone whose vision was much larger than that block. Whatever issue I had wasn’t an issue for them, and it’s like my body absorbed that energy signature and then it knew what to do, and shifted on its own. It’s really the most effortless way to learn because your body does it for you, once it senses how.
Having an energetic model, you can shift easily a wall that you might have banged your head against for years because your body just didn’t know how to shift past it until it felt someone on the other side. Then it can make that leap, or let go of that block. I believe this is the mechanism of healing.
I believe that our body needs to feel the energy of what it is like to be in a new place in order for us to move there. We need to feel what a healthy relationship feels like before we can create it. This is what therapy does (assuming your therapist is healthy). It is the first healthy relationship many people experience, and having that model is the only way they will learn it. I believe we all have the innate capacity to heal–to shift toward and embody a healthy expression of life–but we need healthy models to know what to shift to! And in business, we need more expanded models in order to grow.
So, get out of the house. Go to business meetings and organizations, or look up business owners who are just beyond where you can see yourself easily being. Have lunch with them, or propose a MasterMind group. Go to workshops led by people who have something you don’t. Work with a business coach who is successful in their business and is where you’d like to be. Find mentors in whatever capacity works for you. Support yourself by surrounding yourself with the energy that you want in your life and let your learning happen naturally, like a plant turns toward the sun.